Response to Twitter bashing E.L. James on Twitter as posted on Upworthy

I am reading these comments and asking myself, "At what point in the book does Ana say no and Christian doesn't stop?" When she wants to leave, he doesn't stop her from leaving. I mean, he doesn't grab her and threaten her life. He doesn't hold her down while she claws at him to escape. She is not unconscious when he does these things to her. Do people not see that she enforces her will on him too? She challenges his will a lot of the time? I agree that he goes too far in most of the book with how he pursues her, but I wonder if some of these people are not reading the same book I am reading. The books grammar problems could be part of the blame. As well as, the writing ability of the author. I do believe most of the fault is that there are still women out there that say, "no, stop," when they mean, "Yes, tempt me. I don't want to be the one to take responsibility for my actions." They do this without consideration for how some men are too weak minded to see the difference. Are they the ones reporting rape? No! They are the ones confusing a already serious problem. There are generations before us that are taught to say these things, believing that it is playing hard to get. They think it is being coy or more desirable. The culture that EL James is from, would have done this. But if you don't know the difference, maybe you should do some research. If you don't like the book, then don't read it. Don't recommend it. But it is hard enough to be a writer. Stop bashing the woman. If you are going to bash her, bash her when she is not doing a large public promotion. She is still human for fuck's sake!
http://www.upworthy.com/the-fifty-shades-of-grey-author-had-a-twitter-chat-it-went-off-the-rails-big-time?c=ufb1

Thought about Brokeback and rape as compared to Fifty Shades.

In light of all the "abusive" talk over Fifty Shades, could someone explain to me why the first sexual encounter in Brokeback Mountain isn't considered rape? http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0388795/synopsis
I don't recall Ennis asking Jake to forcefully yank down his pants and do him right then and there. Ennis tries to get away, but is held down and penetrated. It seemed more like rape to me than anything I have read in Fifty Shades. Yet this movie got nothing but praise. I don't think people were watching the same movie as me. I see Ennis as a victim who didn't know how to get away from this traumatic experience. Sort of like the kidnap victim who falls for their kidnapper. His life falls apart. It is not that he is willing to live a lie and not pursue his love. He doesn't understand what has really happened to him and can't accept it. He in no way changes Jake and makes him a better person. Put a female in Ennis's place and tell me what you see in the story. http://www.brokebackmountain.com/home.html